There are some unique ways to handle stress effectively, but first we have to find the core reasons behind it. Living stress free sounds nice, but in the real world most of us have to find ways to minimize it on a daily bases. Life is filled with things that can easily cause stress, but how we handle it determines our happiness, well-being, and health.
As we know stress causes illnesses. Our society emphasizes more on what goes into the body then what goes into the mind. What we think about affects our health, and everything else in-between. Here’s seven effective ways to handle stress.
1 – Find the source of the stress
Stress can show up in your life in very subtle ways. You may feel stressed and irritable not knowing why or where it’s coming from. Start identifying what you’re stressed about. How? Step back a moment, and think about what’s really bothering you. For example:
Work related stress: Maybe your workload is simply not feasible. I worked under these conditions many years. The more I did the more they cut back my help. I was a meat manager for a large grocery chain in Southern California. I was basically doing the work of four people. After 19 years I finally got fed up, and quit. You can read my full story on the about page. When you feel trapped at work with no way out it causes stress. Once you realize the possibilities of success outside your job it puts things into a healthy perspective.
Financial problems: One of leading causes of stress victims is financial problems. There is nothing good about being in debt. It’s humiliating, and frustrating to try your hardest only to plunge deeper and deeper into debt. It keeps you up at night worrying how to pay next month’s bills. This causes deep feelings of anxiety, stress, and depression. The antidote is to be grateful for small things despite circumstances. As you study the life of successful entrepreneurs you’ll find that in their darkest moments of disparity they became obsessed with finding things to be grateful for. Always remember it’s never to late to start over with new beginnings. There are plenty of solutions as we go along.
Relationships: Whenever you’re with someone you truly love, but can’t get along with causes emotional stress. When you argue, and fight it feels like every ounce of energy you have is sucked out of your mind, and body, and any sliver of hope you have in life is up in smoke. Living with someone you care deeply about, yet can’t even have a conversation without an argument will cause incredible stress in your life. Again we must find the source, and keep digging deeper to find answers that will help us handle stress better, or at least minimize it.
2 – Take control of your life
As long as we continue to allow circumstances control our happiness we will never handle stress effectively. We must take complete control of our life with purpose, and intention. What we think….What we believe…..Who we hang out with……And what direction we’re going in life. When you take control you take back your power, and with it you can begin doing amazing things with your life. So increase your inner power, while decreasing your stress level. This is a very effective tool to reduce stress in your life.
3 – Create balance
Once you take control of your life it’s much easier to put balance back into the picture. How? Start organizing your time more efficiently. Identify those habits that are time killers, and start becoming more conscientious about your day. This may seem irrelevant to handle stress, but it’s actually a huge factor. Balance keeps everything into perspective with perfect harmony, and motion. Our daily tasks creates both positive, and negative results.
The opposite examples would be a life filled with obsessiveness, addiction, fits of anger, laziness, unproductive, uncaring, unloving, unkind, and unforgiving. These characteristics throw us out of balance with who we truly are inwardly, and they will bring an endless cycle of anxiety, stress, and unhappiness. So I guess you can say that love, kindness, forgiveness, and productivity bring back balance in a person’s life. From one end of the spectrum to the other balance matters most if you want to handle stress effectively.
4 – Take time out
Sometimes we simply need to take time out to gain fresh perspectives. Taking a step back from any stressful situation helps bring back clarity with better options to handle it. Never make an important decision on an empty stomach, and never allow stress to take over your mind. The only point of power in time we have to make positive changes now. The question is are you ready? The answer depends on your desire. When we get to a place where nothing seems to work it could be time for some change.
Taking a time can bring a new direction with more purpose, and clarity. We are designed to win in life, not to live broken down, defeated, and discouraged. Once you understand this you can condition your life for extraordinary success. But first take time out to establish a game plan, gain momentum, and be encouraged. Doing this will help you overcome your greatest challenges, your fears, your anxiety, and handle stress more effectively in your life.
5 – Set Boundaries
As human beings we need our individualism, and our unique place in this world. Without boundaries this is impossible. We are not some cookie cutter experiment off the assembly line. Without knowing who we are, and where we stand we can never experience a better life.
Without boundaries we go through life like a leaf in the wind. Being tossed, and turned every direction. You’ll wonder around aimlessly seeking your place in this world, and never find it. Instead seek diligence, wisdom, and knowledge as you establish clear boundaries for yourself, and others. Doing this will put you back into the driver’s seat of your life, and you’ll be able to handle stress much more effectively.
6 – Find out what you love
Be adventurous and willing to do things you love doing. Have you ever stopped, and thought about what you loved to do in the past that you’re not doing now? Or enjoyed memories that make you feel good. Maybe a song you hear, or a certain smell that brings back fond memories of the past. Learn to reclaim your passion, and find things that make you happy.
Thinking about the past is not always a negative thing as long as you don’t make your bed there. It has to be done with balance like anything else in life. This is a healthy way to ask yourself what it is that you actually love doing. Start moving in that direction, as you begin to take back control, and put balance back into your life.
7 – Stop worrying about mistakes
How many times have you worried yourself sick over something that never even happened? Our mind is the breeding ground for worry. What good does worry do? When your world is caving in on every corner it’s hard not to worry. It’s a natural reaction when you see things falling apart all around you. But the truth is circumstance cannot control our emotions, our mood, our well-being, or our happiness.
We can have complete control over every part of our lives by exercising the authority we have within. To every stressful situation there is a real solution that can offset it. Whatever problem you face you must not avoid it. You must confront it, and defeat it.
Embrace mistakes. They’re part of life. But with every mistake comes a valuable lesson that will help minimize stress. Going through life without mistakes is like trying to take a bath without getting wet. It’s not going to happen no matter how perfect you are. So learn from your mistakes, and stop worrying about things that don’t even matter.
Trying to live life without mistakes is exhausting, and produces more stress, and anxiety than necessary. Do your best, and let God handle the stress. We become what we think about most… so why not develop mind-sets that create positive energy instead of thoughts that keep our life on hold.