Developing the Art of Self-Confidence

Learning the art of self-confidence can actually make you healthier, happier, and more successful. You will build better relationships, have more money, energy, and enthusiasm. These are only a few of the benefits that are available when we overcome our fears, and grow in self-confidence. There is a way that leads to a positive life filled with purpose, expectation,  and happiness.

Growing your self -confidence without fear

Before we can grow more confidence we have to be willing to face our true colors. If we ignore feelings of low self-esteem, or sweep our lack of self-confidence under the rug eventually it can sabotage our identity, affect our personality, and leave us empty with no direction, or purpose. The root cause is usually traced to social conditioned fear from early on. Fear of failure … fear of others … fear of our-self, and fear of facing the truth.

You might think this is a psychological disorder few face, but think again. Studies have now shown that most people simply don’t like themselves, not to mention have the self-confidence to overcome many of the fears we all face. Here are some simple tips to grow more self-confidence,

  • Make yourself more accountable: Becoming accountable for every action we take is not always easy. But when we do something happens in our lives. We become more powerful. Otherwise we become a victim of circumstance, lose our authority, and blame others for our mistakes. Accountability is what puts us in the driver’s seat of our life, and establishes much more self-confidence.
  • Start moving yourself in the right direction: If you find yourself going in circles getting nowhere it maybe time to evaluate your career, relationships, friends, and so on. When our actions are moving us farther away from what we truly want in our life it lowers our self-confidence because deep down we know it’s time for a new direction. The power of change is in our own hand, and we can choose to use it at anytime.Start taking small steps each day toward the things you want, and move more in that direction.

Overcoming the fear of failure

Overcoming the fear of failure is something we all have to face at some point in our lives. Playing it safe usually never brings out the extraordinary potential inside us. Failure is really only practice for those who learn from their mistakes.

Our failures sharpen us: make us do things better, faster, and a whole lot smarter the next time around. In fact people willing to fail increase their probability of success in whatever they’re trying to accomplish. That’s right … Any great achievement can only be done through many failures. Overcoming fear is not an easy task, but when the mind sees only the possibilities nothing can stop it. 

“True success is overcoming the fear of being unsuccessful”.  Paul Sweeney

What keeps people from rising above and making positive changes they desperately need? It takes courage to look inside ourselves and admit that some form of fear has caused us to play it safe.

  • Don’t fear being wrong: When making decisions we should never be afraid of being wrong. People who fear being wrong are usually not decision makers at work, or at home. So being right, or wrong has nothing to do with your ability to make smart choices. But your confidence level plays a huge roll in how you make decisions. When you develop enough self-confidence to face being wrong once in awhile it’s not always a bad thing.
  • Master the power within; Power is not always money or position. There is a power within you that can create the life you’ve always dreamed, but first you must harness it, and then learn to master it.  This is where the impossible becomes possible, and  imagination ignites a dream. Once you have a vision in your mind, and a deep desire to make it a reality nothing will stand in your way including fear. Once you master these skills you’ll be able to create any life you desire, and become unstoppable.

“Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong”. Peter T. McIntyre.

Improving body language with thought patterns


Your confidence is a mindset that people notice immediately. Our thought patterns dominate our every move including our body language. Whether you know it or not your body language sends off signals what kind of person you are to those around you. They can easily determine your level of self-confidence just by the way you walk, talk, and act tells the world mercilessly who you are. Or at least who they think you are.

Personally I feel more comfortable doing business with a self-confident person over someone who’s withdrawn, nervous, or unsure of themselves. But even those with these characteristics can improve their body language, and completely turn their confidence around. How? By changing the way they think about themselves. Our thought patterns is like a mirror that reflects our self image. 

Our body language speaks louder than words. Anyone who wants to improve their body language outwardly can only do so when that invisible mirror (our thoughts) reflects a confident person inwardly. Self-confidence is a mind-set that can alter your self development, and personal success. 

“Our life is what our thoughts make it” Marcus Aurelius.

Self-confidence vs Arrogance

What does self confidence, and arrogance have in common? Absolutely nothing. Many mistakenly think of self-confidence as self-centered arrogance when actually the opposite is true. Without confidence you deprive yourself of your potential which is what your family needs most. People who are arrogant have a need to brag about themselves with insecurities that are trapped in fear. But a confident person knows who they are inwardly, and has no need, or desire to brag about themselves.

Having inner confidence is relaxing not tense. It feels natural, comfortable, and easy when you’re confident about yourself.  Arrogance causes pressure with a need for attention and exaltation. Does this sound like confidence to you? With inner confidence you won’t need to impress people or pretend to be someone you’re not. Developing more confidence also helps you to overcome the fear of rejection, as well as the fear of failure.

One of the greatest feelings is when you begin to eliminate the strongholds of  fear.  The weight of the world is suddenly lifted off the shoulders of those with the courage. Fear is very subtle, and hard to detect. It’s victims seldom suspect the root cause. They don’t realize that it’s their fear that has robbed them of their  joy, and happiness.

Fear steals everything you cherish making you feel useless, hopeless. and  negative about life while self-confidence makes you get up each day with a feeling of expectation, and excitement.  Never allow fear to stand between you, and your dreams. You can’t change others, but you can change yourself, and learn to master the art of self. that skyrockets your success in everything you do.  



About the Author:

Hello I’m Archie Manley Site Author. Even though I run this site it’s not about me, it’s about us, and our journey toward a better life. You can read my personal story on the about page.

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